Why Is He So Jealous, Even Of My Own Brothers??

You are accurate when you state that your boyfriend’s jealousy is a controlling issue. He wants all of your attention focused on himself and feels that you are outside of his control if you spend time with anyone else. Many times jealousy has to do with feeling insecure. Basically, he fears that you like your brothers and other people more than you like him. There is no way you will convince him otherwise. In my opinion, this is why you would be better off ending this relationship. You are correct. You will never be happy with this man because he will always try to control you, at least that is how I “see it.”

However, the issue is deeper for you because you report that, in an earlier relationship, the same issuess appeared. Why does this keep happening to you?

It is common for all of us to repeat past problems in an effort to find solutions. Past problems most often refer back to when we were growing up. Perhaps your father or mother was jealous of each other. Perhaps you experienced or witnessed some other problems in your family and those problems are being repeated as exemplified by the types of men you choose.

My suggestion is that you enter psychotherapy in order to learn how to avoid the same pattern of behaviors that have recently plagued you.

Best of Luck